What Is Love????

It is nearly impossible to maintain something that you dont fully understand...... Listen.... This is Love...Click here ---->>LOVE<<

Change......

More often than not you see women with undeserving men and men running behind undeserving women... Stop fooling yourselves into thinking u can change them and just CHANGE THEM (replace or remove). There is somebody out there what wants nothing more than to make you happy, Leave yourself open and available to recognize that or just keep dealing with what u got. ‪#‎thoughtsofaloveletter‬

Realize Whats Real......

Realize that if you got him with that dress... And when he's already had all u have to offer that u cant start to think that you can magically depend on him or that now he's a good man. The truth is he's now at the point where he can really show u who he is.., Because now he has nothing to lose. And for the fellas, U knew what u got by the way that u got it... You're not special, What she did with you chances are she's done it plenty times before.. Where there is smoke there is fire... Try to do something meaningful... ‪#‎forachange‬ ‪#‎thoughtsofaloveletter‬

Sometimes your alarm doesn't go off..... & U need help to ‪#‎wakeup‬ ‪#‎thoughtsofaloveletter‬

18 Signs You've Found Your Soulmate

Spiritually speaking, it is said that even before you are born, the name of your spiritual half if determined. Each soul has a perfect match… your soulmate.

Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss, your true spiritual soulmate is the person intended to help you “complete yourself.”

Jerry McGuire was right- soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. This is not always a blissful experience.

Being in an honest, sincere, and committed soul mate relationship helps you to become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self.

Even though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment of the perfect click. It’s a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this is the right one.

Often soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing you forward that tells you this is “the right one” for you.

You have a personal checklist of everything you want in a partner. Tall- check. Dark hair (no curls please)-check. Blondes only-check. 6 pack abs- check. Or you can be like Jerry Seinfeld knowing his date is not “the one” because she eats her peas one at a time.

So, if you are brave enough to move away from your romance checklist, open your eyes and your heart to unexpected possiblities, you just might be one of the lucky ones who finds their true soul match.

You know you’ve found your soulmate when:

1. You just know it.

Something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. It’s as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely.

2. You have crossed paths before.

Soulmates have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.

3. Your souls meet at the right time.

Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your “perfect person checklist,” but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.

4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.

Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, there’s a quiet peace between you.

5. You can hear the other person’s silent thoughts.

With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed.

6. You feel each other’s pain.

You stand in each other’s shoes. You know each other so well, that the second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each other’s feelings; sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each others’ happiness and joy.

 7. You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them.

Yes, it’s true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. It’s the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw.Stubborn people are gooddecision makers. Overly organized people are great at paying bills on time.

8.  You share the same life goals.

You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result.

9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.

Conversations can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will be able to work it out.

10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.

Whether it’s tennis three times a week or girls night out, you respect each others’ need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special.

11. You don’t experience jealousy.

Pretty girls at the office or handsome personal trainers aren’t a threat to your relationship. You are secure knowing that you are  the only one.

12. You respect each other’s differences and opinions.

You know you have different opinions. Often soulmates are polar opposites. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.

13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce.

Of course you feel anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates aren’t nasty, hurtful, or punitive.

14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.

Giving is can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy.

15. You know how to apologize.

It’s not easy to say “I’m sorry” or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words caused harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused.

16. You would marry each other again.

You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner.

17. You complete each other.

Yes, I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates compliment each other. It’s the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be an extrovert, while one is an introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposites that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.

18. Being in each other’s arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.

There is no place you’d rather be at the end of the day but in each other’s arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant to be together eternally.

Source : www.lifehack.org

How do you as a woman know when we are serious about you?

6 Ways To Tell That He Is Serious....

1. He’s transparent.
Nothing is more toxic to new relationships than the nagging feeling there is more to your partner than meets the eye. Someone who is serious about you is never evasive or vague. He gives you straight answers about his work, his friends, his past relationships, and how he spends his spare time. 

2.He introduces you to family and friends.
When a man takes you to meet the important people in his life, it means one of the following: (a) he thinks you are wonderful and worth showing off—and is sure others will agree; or (b) he thinks you are wonderful and worth showing off—and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks. Either way it’s a good sign that, to him, you are much more than a casual acquaintance.

3.He includes you in his other interests.
If he plays softball in the city recreation league, he wants you in the bleachers for the games. If he loves scuba diving, he gives you a brochure about lessons at a local pool so you can one day plan a diving trip together. The point is, he doesn’t compartmentalize his life. He’s serious enough to share it all with you.

4. He safeguards his time with you.

Everyone is busy these days, with endless deadlines and demands. But someone who is excited about a relationship with you will not let those things rob him of your time together. He’ll go into work early rather than risk being stuck in the office that night when you’ve got a date. He’ll trim the fat from his routine. He’ll turn down competing offers—anything to be with you when he said he would.

5.He’s more than superficially curious about you.
The difference between common small talk and a genuine desire to know you can be summed up in a single word: questions. Lots of them. If you tell him you studied creative writing in college, the interested man will want to know what drew you to that major . . . whether you write novels or poetry or screenplays . . . your favorite books of all time . . . what you’ve written lately and whether he may (please, please) read it. If you get to the end of an evening and realize the man you’re with has kept you talking the whole time about yourself, be assured that he’s quite taken with you.

6.He listens to you and respects your opinion.
The man who thinks of you as more than a “date” will involve you in his decisions about everything from which shoes you like best when he’s shopping to how he should handle a crisis at work. The guy who is serious about you is serious about your thoughts and opinions. It goes without saying (though we’ll say it anyway) that the above ideas are posted on a two-way street: these same six signs are how HE will know you’re serious as well.

An Open Letter To Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go...

Dear Girl Who Walked Away,

It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could.

The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone.

We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all.

We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. We play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be our number one priority. Why?

I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down.

Save yourself time and energy because the good guy isn’t going to make it easy to just walk away. The good guy cares, so he’ll get his explanation from you even though he knows it’ll be a load of bull.

Every girl says she likes the assh*le because he’s the challenge — the one she must break, train and force to be more than just a douchebag. Have you ever thought, however, maybe you were the girl in need of learning what it means to actually feel again?

You went through something, like we all do, and because of it you changed. It’s normal and heartbreak happens, but the next assh*le didn’t fix what the first one did; he kept it the same or made it worse. His priority was not you and couldn’t be you. So now you’re bitter and closed off from anything remotely more satisfying than a one-night stand.

I won’t deny that the assh*le is fun or that a good time isn’t promised with him, but when it’s all said and done, is it ever more than just a good time? Probably not.

In fact, the assh*le has a charm about him; it’s the charm you justify your pursuit with. You say, “There’s just something about him.” However, it’s probably the same quality that ended up hurting you in the past.

So you tried to push the nice guy away. When he wouldn’t go away, you pushed harder. Still, he didn’t give up and every time you pushed harder, he pulled you in even more.

He ignored your fears and forced you to grow; he fought for your passions when you were too busy writing them off. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. Then you walked away because he was too nice.

He gave you too much of everything you wanted, and life got too easy. You wanted conflict and hardship as if everything else in life did not promise you an endless journey of just that. This is where you failed.

The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. He learned that different people were going to provide him different things in life. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was.

So, he let you walk away and he called it a day. Everyone always says there are plenty of fish in the sea, and he let you go knowing this, even though it hurt.

What you don’t know is that someone else is out there, and she won’t be as foolish you. When you realize all you really want is the nice guy who cares about you too much, it’s going to be too late. Some other girl will be able to see how great he is, and she won’t waste a minute.

So you lost your Ted Mosby and, I promise, to him you were Robin. The nice guys are there to give you a break, a light to something more than the games we identify our generation with.

He may have loved you too soon and it was too crazy and too much, but guys like Mosby don’t happen every day; they happen never. He got you the blue French horn, and he made you feel love when love was no longer a part of your vocabulary. You were now saying “I love you” again and remembering what it felt like.

He was the guy you were supposed to end up with, who makes everything change. I just wish you’d see it before another girl does because at the end of the day, everyone, including the nice guy you don’t deserve, is rooting only for you.

My Love Is Not My Value, My Value Is My Love....

We all have been at a point where we just want to give up on love, We allow the wrong love or the lack of love make us feel unimportant or insignificant. But for those of us who know what real love is we understand that as much as we want to Quit, Give Up or Not Care Anymore that all we know is love. There are a certain few of us that I like to call Undiscerning Lovers. Our only goal is to Tell, Show and Express to those special people or person that we have an unwavering love for them. Well in life nothing is ever perfect and those special ones just may not feel that way for you. Maybe you dont have the qualities they want. Maybe they dont feel that you are good enough. Maybe they are just not willing to fight for you the way you are willing to fight for them.... Well as this goes you are normally the one hurt and feeling defeated. Never allow yourself to be defeated! Live to become a person who's love is unimaginable, never ending and unmatched by any other. Be so true and genuine in the way you love that it alone becomes more valuable than any word or physical attribute that you may have.  Don't allow those who cant see your value decrease your value... My love is not my Value.... My Value is my Love... Make sure there is no love like yours.... You are worth it..

Men.... Know how to please your woman by LEARNING what it takes... Sorry but you weren't born with it...

You can never be the best at anything until you first learn....
http://www.thepassionatewife.com/2013/06/21/the-fine-art-of-penis-thrusting/

Profound words from a woman that gets it...

Women Click Here....

CONfidence has a dark side......???

Confidence.... Trust or faith in a person or thing.... Let's talk about what it means. It means that you believe in who or whatever's abilities.. Whatever abilities they are trying to prove. A confident man/woman projects a suave sexy existence which is purposes to make everyone believe in those sexy suave qualities... What many if us don't know is that The word CON Artist comes from the word CONfidence... This is the dark side of confidence. I have said this before you must be careful of the person who says all of the right things and stop expecting for any person to be perfect. Some women/men have mastered the are of being CONfidence Artists, and they will take you and your heart on a wonderful ride until you realize it ends over a cliff. It takes a very long time to get to know someone, allow yourself that time allow ones character to determine who they are rather than their act. If you allow someone enough time they will eventually show you who they really are... 

#humble #confidence #thoughtsofaloveletter

-fstarks

Don't Get Use To It.....

Sometimes we just refuse to see it, People can tell us, Show us, even explain in detail to us what we are doing wrong for some reason we just walk right back into it because were use to it, so we knowingly walk right back into it. Well DONT.... don't get use to being hurt, don't get use to being taken advantage of, don't get use to being ignored, don't get use to loving and not being loved back, don't get use to giving and never getting.... STOP... Don't let a routine deny you of a real thing.. #recognize #real because #real is #rare

Sucks To Be Alone Doesn't It......

Sucks to be alone doesn't it... Yea I know u get lonely but guess what, It takes a strong person to fight those urges in their head to settle for anybody just to feel comfort. Doesn't mean you can't want it, What it means is don't let it define you... Your world is not empty because you are the only one there, YOU are there, Love yourself.. "One who searches for love finds heartache, One who has found heartache no longer searches for love".... #thoughtsofaloveletter #love#mywords #mythoughts

Waving off Blessings?

There was once a man who was stranded on a roof in a flood. Being a very religious man he said to himself,"The Lord will take care of me". As he looked down the water began to rise rapidly. Well about that time a guy in a boat came by and threw him a rope, He swiftly threw the rope back and said ,"The Lord will take care of me"..

 By now the water was nearly at his feet. But the man was faithful that God had this. He then heard a noise coming from the clouds. It was a helicopter. They approached the house and dropped a rope for the man but once again he waved them off and said,"The Lord will take care of me".. 

By this time a large wave came and pulled him under and he drowned. When he got to heaven he said to God I had faith and I waited for you, Why did you not save me in which God replied.... I sent you a Boat AND a Helicopter!! 

The moral to this story is this... We ask God for things and sometimes he provides exactly what we need but we fail to even see it and we end up drowning in our dream of what is suppose to be. Acknowledge the obvious but don't be naive in your decisions. Be educated and Just allow yourself the opportunity to receive Gods blessings and don't be so quick to wave them off because it may be your last chance to get to safety.   #learnsomething #thoughtsofaloveletter #blog #blessings

My Love...

My love...
Impossible to gauge as the oceans true mass,
Or as raindrops from storms and trees you have passed,
Exhausting it blows you like winds from a storm,
It's power electric, It's comfort is warm.
It cradles your heart and connects with your mind,
It flows through your spirit, It runs up your spine,
My Love is amazing, Ill say so myself,
My hands are like fire your body Ill melt,
The puddle of you that is left in my bed,
Ill treat like fine wine and just take to the head.
You shake and you shiver, your feening for this,
Ill enable your hunger by teasing your kiss,
With no drug or drink as addictive as mine,
There is no intervention for you but my time,
My love never-ending but I wont go too deep,
Ill save that to wake you tonight from your sleep…..

f.starks

I Find Me..... (Poetry)

Feel's like I've lost myself within these walls of muscle blood and skin. 

This confidence is used to hide unhappiness thats trapped inside.
A brilliant mind with brilliant thoughts breeds sleepless nights and complex flaws.
How can one understand me when even I cannot, ....... 

(to be continued as the heart writes when it writes)

Scribble..... (Poetry)

If my tongue could express what my heart feels it would set the air on fire before me,

If it could be understood who I am that fire would burn right through me,

With flames of ice that explode with light, 

With a single tear that would flood the night, 

Through my sorrows and my pains with might I fight,

But a fight from within it has no win...


If my mind was on paper these letters would wet the page,
Raise up and rearrange to hide my purpose, hide my stage..
I've played the fool and acted out,

I've opened up and emptied out,
But still I haven't figured out,
Why I'm with all but still all without...

Confusing to you and you don't have a clue what I mean these are just a few words in a space,
But it helps me to think out loud and in ink when I outline my mind on a page.

Opposites Attract..... But never work..... What gives??? (Read on)

Why are we always jumping right back into the very things that we have vowed to escape. Is it true that opposites attract... Well you see this very thing in nature. The positive end if a magnet is repelled by another positive end but holds firmly to the negative end. Well it seems as if this is repeated all throughout nature. We want more of that which is bad for us. And with this we continue to get hurt. 

Here are my thoughts... Communication is so underrated yet so obliviously the cure to most issues, Although you can never really change someone you can always shape a relationship. You can communicate the things that you enjoy to someone that may not display those exact qualities and you can always lovingly coach them into the very thing that you enjoy.

 No You will never find a perfect person but if you find someone you love that loves and treats you right the rest is easy to accomplish. You never take a new job knowing exactly what to do, It is a learning process. Learn your lover. And remember it's give and take, Love is about compromise and the willingness to do what it takes to make someone happy. Don't allow yourself to miss out on the best love you ever had because any easily corrected deficiencies. And don't fall into that love powered by the want to make someone "who is unworthy of you"  love you back.. Namely "The Opposite"...

Dreams and Nightmares "The Misconception"

For the ladies waiting in their dream guy Im gonna take you to school real quick, You should want a man that is confident, But remember that confidence makes a player, He's a little more likely to take his chances on another woman while he is with you, You should want a man that has all the right things to say, Just remember he has all the right things to say to other women as well. You should want a man who is strong and takes what he wants, Just remember what he wants may not always be with you...

See if a man tells you he has never thought if another woman he is telling you a lie, The difference between a good man and a bad one is that a good man does not act on his desires, but that strong, confident, take charge man, well he doesn't really think he can't lose you, or he believes you will forgive him if he gets caught because he is smooth enough to have his way.

So what makes a good man??? A weakness. Think about this when u think you have found Mr. Right. The very thing that attracts many women to a man is the very thing that causes them to part ways... A weakness doesn't mean a man is weak it means that he is human.....And that ladies man is a ladies man for a reason. You wont put up with that treatment you say, Well once you fall in love you areno longer in control. Your heart is a fool and will cause you to do foolish things you never figured you would do for love...

"If u listen to me I can show u something"

-f.starks

#thoughtsofaloveletter #life #love #dreams #nightmares #lessons#learnsomething

TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter

I am a man that has been blessed with a heart that longs for the comfort and compassion of a woman, A man who has gone to extremes to understand the makeup of a woman, What she feels and why... Although I have not always been the best man I have always been a good man, it has always been in me. I am lucky enough to have once found true love therefore I know what it means and what it feels like. Although I no longer have her I now understand what is required to keep her if ever I were to have her again.

Writing down my thoughts and feelings over the years has given me a keen insight on what love is and specifically how it works. It was therapy for a heart that felt closed off, vacant and unused yet overflowing. As I began to post my feelings, thoughts and ideas on love and following Life Coaches such as Rob Hill, Kenny Burns and Trent Shelton for insight I began to get responses from people thanking me for helping them see love in a different way and helping them through a hard time. This made me feel that my words actually made a difference so after getting enough feedback from people I figure I'll extend  my scope to a blog.

I am opening myself to questions and suggestions as well. There is so much hate in the world I feel I can use this as a platform to share and spread the meaning of love, My meaning of love. Yes Real Men Do Love. I'm not soft, I'm not a pushover I am a lover... I'm not a professional my academic standards but my love is the best teacher. Welcome to my world and open your mind to TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter.... #Help #Therapy

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