CONfidence has a dark side......???

Confidence.... Trust or faith in a person or thing.... Let's talk about what it means. It means that you believe in who or whatever's abilities.. Whatever abilities they are trying to prove. A confident man/woman projects a suave sexy existence which is purposes to make everyone believe in those sexy suave qualities... What many if us don't know is that The word CON Artist comes from the word CONfidence... This is the dark side of confidence. I have said this before you must be careful of the person who says all of the right things and stop expecting for any person to be perfect. Some women/men have mastered the are of being CONfidence Artists, and they will take you and your heart on a wonderful ride until you realize it ends over a cliff. It takes a very long time to get to know someone, allow yourself that time allow ones character to determine who they are rather than their act. If you allow someone enough time they will eventually show you who they really are... 

#humble #confidence #thoughtsofaloveletter

-fstarks

Don't Get Use To It.....

Sometimes we just refuse to see it, People can tell us, Show us, even explain in detail to us what we are doing wrong for some reason we just walk right back into it because were use to it, so we knowingly walk right back into it. Well DONT.... don't get use to being hurt, don't get use to being taken advantage of, don't get use to being ignored, don't get use to loving and not being loved back, don't get use to giving and never getting.... STOP... Don't let a routine deny you of a real thing.. #recognize #real because #real is #rare

Sucks To Be Alone Doesn't It......

Sucks to be alone doesn't it... Yea I know u get lonely but guess what, It takes a strong person to fight those urges in their head to settle for anybody just to feel comfort. Doesn't mean you can't want it, What it means is don't let it define you... Your world is not empty because you are the only one there, YOU are there, Love yourself.. "One who searches for love finds heartache, One who has found heartache no longer searches for love".... #thoughtsofaloveletter #love#mywords #mythoughts

Waving off Blessings?

There was once a man who was stranded on a roof in a flood. Being a very religious man he said to himself,"The Lord will take care of me". As he looked down the water began to rise rapidly. Well about that time a guy in a boat came by and threw him a rope, He swiftly threw the rope back and said ,"The Lord will take care of me"..

 By now the water was nearly at his feet. But the man was faithful that God had this. He then heard a noise coming from the clouds. It was a helicopter. They approached the house and dropped a rope for the man but once again he waved them off and said,"The Lord will take care of me".. 

By this time a large wave came and pulled him under and he drowned. When he got to heaven he said to God I had faith and I waited for you, Why did you not save me in which God replied.... I sent you a Boat AND a Helicopter!! 

The moral to this story is this... We ask God for things and sometimes he provides exactly what we need but we fail to even see it and we end up drowning in our dream of what is suppose to be. Acknowledge the obvious but don't be naive in your decisions. Be educated and Just allow yourself the opportunity to receive Gods blessings and don't be so quick to wave them off because it may be your last chance to get to safety.   #learnsomething #thoughtsofaloveletter #blog #blessings

My Love...

My love...
Impossible to gauge as the oceans true mass,
Or as raindrops from storms and trees you have passed,
Exhausting it blows you like winds from a storm,
It's power electric, It's comfort is warm.
It cradles your heart and connects with your mind,
It flows through your spirit, It runs up your spine,
My Love is amazing, Ill say so myself,
My hands are like fire your body Ill melt,
The puddle of you that is left in my bed,
Ill treat like fine wine and just take to the head.
You shake and you shiver, your feening for this,
Ill enable your hunger by teasing your kiss,
With no drug or drink as addictive as mine,
There is no intervention for you but my time,
My love never-ending but I wont go too deep,
Ill save that to wake you tonight from your sleep…..

f.starks

I Find Me..... (Poetry)

Feel's like I've lost myself within these walls of muscle blood and skin. 

This confidence is used to hide unhappiness thats trapped inside.
A brilliant mind with brilliant thoughts breeds sleepless nights and complex flaws.
How can one understand me when even I cannot, ....... 

(to be continued as the heart writes when it writes)

Scribble..... (Poetry)

If my tongue could express what my heart feels it would set the air on fire before me,

If it could be understood who I am that fire would burn right through me,

With flames of ice that explode with light, 

With a single tear that would flood the night, 

Through my sorrows and my pains with might I fight,

But a fight from within it has no win...


If my mind was on paper these letters would wet the page,
Raise up and rearrange to hide my purpose, hide my stage..
I've played the fool and acted out,

I've opened up and emptied out,
But still I haven't figured out,
Why I'm with all but still all without...

Confusing to you and you don't have a clue what I mean these are just a few words in a space,
But it helps me to think out loud and in ink when I outline my mind on a page.

Opposites Attract..... But never work..... What gives??? (Read on)

Why are we always jumping right back into the very things that we have vowed to escape. Is it true that opposites attract... Well you see this very thing in nature. The positive end if a magnet is repelled by another positive end but holds firmly to the negative end. Well it seems as if this is repeated all throughout nature. We want more of that which is bad for us. And with this we continue to get hurt. 

Here are my thoughts... Communication is so underrated yet so obliviously the cure to most issues, Although you can never really change someone you can always shape a relationship. You can communicate the things that you enjoy to someone that may not display those exact qualities and you can always lovingly coach them into the very thing that you enjoy.

 No You will never find a perfect person but if you find someone you love that loves and treats you right the rest is easy to accomplish. You never take a new job knowing exactly what to do, It is a learning process. Learn your lover. And remember it's give and take, Love is about compromise and the willingness to do what it takes to make someone happy. Don't allow yourself to miss out on the best love you ever had because any easily corrected deficiencies. And don't fall into that love powered by the want to make someone "who is unworthy of you"  love you back.. Namely "The Opposite"...

Dreams and Nightmares "The Misconception"

For the ladies waiting in their dream guy Im gonna take you to school real quick, You should want a man that is confident, But remember that confidence makes a player, He's a little more likely to take his chances on another woman while he is with you, You should want a man that has all the right things to say, Just remember he has all the right things to say to other women as well. You should want a man who is strong and takes what he wants, Just remember what he wants may not always be with you...

See if a man tells you he has never thought if another woman he is telling you a lie, The difference between a good man and a bad one is that a good man does not act on his desires, but that strong, confident, take charge man, well he doesn't really think he can't lose you, or he believes you will forgive him if he gets caught because he is smooth enough to have his way.

So what makes a good man??? A weakness. Think about this when u think you have found Mr. Right. The very thing that attracts many women to a man is the very thing that causes them to part ways... A weakness doesn't mean a man is weak it means that he is human.....And that ladies man is a ladies man for a reason. You wont put up with that treatment you say, Well once you fall in love you areno longer in control. Your heart is a fool and will cause you to do foolish things you never figured you would do for love...

"If u listen to me I can show u something"

-f.starks

#thoughtsofaloveletter #life #love #dreams #nightmares #lessons#learnsomething

TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter

I am a man that has been blessed with a heart that longs for the comfort and compassion of a woman, A man who has gone to extremes to understand the makeup of a woman, What she feels and why... Although I have not always been the best man I have always been a good man, it has always been in me. I am lucky enough to have once found true love therefore I know what it means and what it feels like. Although I no longer have her I now understand what is required to keep her if ever I were to have her again.

Writing down my thoughts and feelings over the years has given me a keen insight on what love is and specifically how it works. It was therapy for a heart that felt closed off, vacant and unused yet overflowing. As I began to post my feelings, thoughts and ideas on love and following Life Coaches such as Rob Hill, Kenny Burns and Trent Shelton for insight I began to get responses from people thanking me for helping them see love in a different way and helping them through a hard time. This made me feel that my words actually made a difference so after getting enough feedback from people I figure I'll extend  my scope to a blog.

I am opening myself to questions and suggestions as well. There is so much hate in the world I feel I can use this as a platform to share and spread the meaning of love, My meaning of love. Yes Real Men Do Love. I'm not soft, I'm not a pushover I am a lover... I'm not a professional my academic standards but my love is the best teacher. Welcome to my world and open your mind to TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter.... #Help #Therapy

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