How do you as a woman know when we are serious about you?

6 Ways To Tell That He Is Serious....

1. He’s transparent.
Nothing is more toxic to new relationships than the nagging feeling there is more to your partner than meets the eye. Someone who is serious about you is never evasive or vague. He gives you straight answers about his work, his friends, his past relationships, and how he spends his spare time. 

2.He introduces you to family and friends.
When a man takes you to meet the important people in his life, it means one of the following: (a) he thinks you are wonderful and worth showing off—and is sure others will agree; or (b) he thinks you are wonderful and worth showing off—and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks. Either way it’s a good sign that, to him, you are much more than a casual acquaintance.

3.He includes you in his other interests.
If he plays softball in the city recreation league, he wants you in the bleachers for the games. If he loves scuba diving, he gives you a brochure about lessons at a local pool so you can one day plan a diving trip together. The point is, he doesn’t compartmentalize his life. He’s serious enough to share it all with you.

4. He safeguards his time with you.

Everyone is busy these days, with endless deadlines and demands. But someone who is excited about a relationship with you will not let those things rob him of your time together. He’ll go into work early rather than risk being stuck in the office that night when you’ve got a date. He’ll trim the fat from his routine. He’ll turn down competing offers—anything to be with you when he said he would.

5.He’s more than superficially curious about you.
The difference between common small talk and a genuine desire to know you can be summed up in a single word: questions. Lots of them. If you tell him you studied creative writing in college, the interested man will want to know what drew you to that major . . . whether you write novels or poetry or screenplays . . . your favorite books of all time . . . what you’ve written lately and whether he may (please, please) read it. If you get to the end of an evening and realize the man you’re with has kept you talking the whole time about yourself, be assured that he’s quite taken with you.

6.He listens to you and respects your opinion.
The man who thinks of you as more than a “date” will involve you in his decisions about everything from which shoes you like best when he’s shopping to how he should handle a crisis at work. The guy who is serious about you is serious about your thoughts and opinions. It goes without saying (though we’ll say it anyway) that the above ideas are posted on a two-way street: these same six signs are how HE will know you’re serious as well.

An Open Letter To Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go...

Dear Girl Who Walked Away,

It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could.

The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone.

We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all.

We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. We play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be our number one priority. Why?

I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down.

Save yourself time and energy because the good guy isn’t going to make it easy to just walk away. The good guy cares, so he’ll get his explanation from you even though he knows it’ll be a load of bull.

Every girl says she likes the assh*le because he’s the challenge — the one she must break, train and force to be more than just a douchebag. Have you ever thought, however, maybe you were the girl in need of learning what it means to actually feel again?

You went through something, like we all do, and because of it you changed. It’s normal and heartbreak happens, but the next assh*le didn’t fix what the first one did; he kept it the same or made it worse. His priority was not you and couldn’t be you. So now you’re bitter and closed off from anything remotely more satisfying than a one-night stand.

I won’t deny that the assh*le is fun or that a good time isn’t promised with him, but when it’s all said and done, is it ever more than just a good time? Probably not.

In fact, the assh*le has a charm about him; it’s the charm you justify your pursuit with. You say, “There’s just something about him.” However, it’s probably the same quality that ended up hurting you in the past.

So you tried to push the nice guy away. When he wouldn’t go away, you pushed harder. Still, he didn’t give up and every time you pushed harder, he pulled you in even more.

He ignored your fears and forced you to grow; he fought for your passions when you were too busy writing them off. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. Then you walked away because he was too nice.

He gave you too much of everything you wanted, and life got too easy. You wanted conflict and hardship as if everything else in life did not promise you an endless journey of just that. This is where you failed.

The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. He learned that different people were going to provide him different things in life. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was.

So, he let you walk away and he called it a day. Everyone always says there are plenty of fish in the sea, and he let you go knowing this, even though it hurt.

What you don’t know is that someone else is out there, and she won’t be as foolish you. When you realize all you really want is the nice guy who cares about you too much, it’s going to be too late. Some other girl will be able to see how great he is, and she won’t waste a minute.

So you lost your Ted Mosby and, I promise, to him you were Robin. The nice guys are there to give you a break, a light to something more than the games we identify our generation with.

He may have loved you too soon and it was too crazy and too much, but guys like Mosby don’t happen every day; they happen never. He got you the blue French horn, and he made you feel love when love was no longer a part of your vocabulary. You were now saying “I love you” again and remembering what it felt like.

He was the guy you were supposed to end up with, who makes everything change. I just wish you’d see it before another girl does because at the end of the day, everyone, including the nice guy you don’t deserve, is rooting only for you.

My Love Is Not My Value, My Value Is My Love....

We all have been at a point where we just want to give up on love, We allow the wrong love or the lack of love make us feel unimportant or insignificant. But for those of us who know what real love is we understand that as much as we want to Quit, Give Up or Not Care Anymore that all we know is love. There are a certain few of us that I like to call Undiscerning Lovers. Our only goal is to Tell, Show and Express to those special people or person that we have an unwavering love for them. Well in life nothing is ever perfect and those special ones just may not feel that way for you. Maybe you dont have the qualities they want. Maybe they dont feel that you are good enough. Maybe they are just not willing to fight for you the way you are willing to fight for them.... Well as this goes you are normally the one hurt and feeling defeated. Never allow yourself to be defeated! Live to become a person who's love is unimaginable, never ending and unmatched by any other. Be so true and genuine in the way you love that it alone becomes more valuable than any word or physical attribute that you may have.  Don't allow those who cant see your value decrease your value... My love is not my Value.... My Value is my Love... Make sure there is no love like yours.... You are worth it..

Men.... Know how to please your woman by LEARNING what it takes... Sorry but you weren't born with it...

You can never be the best at anything until you first learn....
http://www.thepassionatewife.com/2013/06/21/the-fine-art-of-penis-thrusting/

Profound words from a woman that gets it...

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CONfidence has a dark side......???

Confidence.... Trust or faith in a person or thing.... Let's talk about what it means. It means that you believe in who or whatever's abilities.. Whatever abilities they are trying to prove. A confident man/woman projects a suave sexy existence which is purposes to make everyone believe in those sexy suave qualities... What many if us don't know is that The word CON Artist comes from the word CONfidence... This is the dark side of confidence. I have said this before you must be careful of the person who says all of the right things and stop expecting for any person to be perfect. Some women/men have mastered the are of being CONfidence Artists, and they will take you and your heart on a wonderful ride until you realize it ends over a cliff. It takes a very long time to get to know someone, allow yourself that time allow ones character to determine who they are rather than their act. If you allow someone enough time they will eventually show you who they really are... 

#humble #confidence #thoughtsofaloveletter

-fstarks

Don't Get Use To It.....

Sometimes we just refuse to see it, People can tell us, Show us, even explain in detail to us what we are doing wrong for some reason we just walk right back into it because were use to it, so we knowingly walk right back into it. Well DONT.... don't get use to being hurt, don't get use to being taken advantage of, don't get use to being ignored, don't get use to loving and not being loved back, don't get use to giving and never getting.... STOP... Don't let a routine deny you of a real thing.. #recognize #real because #real is #rare

Sucks To Be Alone Doesn't It......

Sucks to be alone doesn't it... Yea I know u get lonely but guess what, It takes a strong person to fight those urges in their head to settle for anybody just to feel comfort. Doesn't mean you can't want it, What it means is don't let it define you... Your world is not empty because you are the only one there, YOU are there, Love yourself.. "One who searches for love finds heartache, One who has found heartache no longer searches for love".... #thoughtsofaloveletter #love#mywords #mythoughts

Waving off Blessings?

There was once a man who was stranded on a roof in a flood. Being a very religious man he said to himself,"The Lord will take care of me". As he looked down the water began to rise rapidly. Well about that time a guy in a boat came by and threw him a rope, He swiftly threw the rope back and said ,"The Lord will take care of me"..

 By now the water was nearly at his feet. But the man was faithful that God had this. He then heard a noise coming from the clouds. It was a helicopter. They approached the house and dropped a rope for the man but once again he waved them off and said,"The Lord will take care of me".. 

By this time a large wave came and pulled him under and he drowned. When he got to heaven he said to God I had faith and I waited for you, Why did you not save me in which God replied.... I sent you a Boat AND a Helicopter!! 

The moral to this story is this... We ask God for things and sometimes he provides exactly what we need but we fail to even see it and we end up drowning in our dream of what is suppose to be. Acknowledge the obvious but don't be naive in your decisions. Be educated and Just allow yourself the opportunity to receive Gods blessings and don't be so quick to wave them off because it may be your last chance to get to safety.   #learnsomething #thoughtsofaloveletter #blog #blessings

My Love...

My love...
Impossible to gauge as the oceans true mass,
Or as raindrops from storms and trees you have passed,
Exhausting it blows you like winds from a storm,
It's power electric, It's comfort is warm.
It cradles your heart and connects with your mind,
It flows through your spirit, It runs up your spine,
My Love is amazing, Ill say so myself,
My hands are like fire your body Ill melt,
The puddle of you that is left in my bed,
Ill treat like fine wine and just take to the head.
You shake and you shiver, your feening for this,
Ill enable your hunger by teasing your kiss,
With no drug or drink as addictive as mine,
There is no intervention for you but my time,
My love never-ending but I wont go too deep,
Ill save that to wake you tonight from your sleep…..

f.starks

I Find Me..... (Poetry)

Feel's like I've lost myself within these walls of muscle blood and skin. 

This confidence is used to hide unhappiness thats trapped inside.
A brilliant mind with brilliant thoughts breeds sleepless nights and complex flaws.
How can one understand me when even I cannot, ....... 

(to be continued as the heart writes when it writes)

Scribble..... (Poetry)

If my tongue could express what my heart feels it would set the air on fire before me,

If it could be understood who I am that fire would burn right through me,

With flames of ice that explode with light, 

With a single tear that would flood the night, 

Through my sorrows and my pains with might I fight,

But a fight from within it has no win...


If my mind was on paper these letters would wet the page,
Raise up and rearrange to hide my purpose, hide my stage..
I've played the fool and acted out,

I've opened up and emptied out,
But still I haven't figured out,
Why I'm with all but still all without...

Confusing to you and you don't have a clue what I mean these are just a few words in a space,
But it helps me to think out loud and in ink when I outline my mind on a page.

Opposites Attract..... But never work..... What gives??? (Read on)

Why are we always jumping right back into the very things that we have vowed to escape. Is it true that opposites attract... Well you see this very thing in nature. The positive end if a magnet is repelled by another positive end but holds firmly to the negative end. Well it seems as if this is repeated all throughout nature. We want more of that which is bad for us. And with this we continue to get hurt. 

Here are my thoughts... Communication is so underrated yet so obliviously the cure to most issues, Although you can never really change someone you can always shape a relationship. You can communicate the things that you enjoy to someone that may not display those exact qualities and you can always lovingly coach them into the very thing that you enjoy.

 No You will never find a perfect person but if you find someone you love that loves and treats you right the rest is easy to accomplish. You never take a new job knowing exactly what to do, It is a learning process. Learn your lover. And remember it's give and take, Love is about compromise and the willingness to do what it takes to make someone happy. Don't allow yourself to miss out on the best love you ever had because any easily corrected deficiencies. And don't fall into that love powered by the want to make someone "who is unworthy of you"  love you back.. Namely "The Opposite"...

Dreams and Nightmares "The Misconception"

For the ladies waiting in their dream guy Im gonna take you to school real quick, You should want a man that is confident, But remember that confidence makes a player, He's a little more likely to take his chances on another woman while he is with you, You should want a man that has all the right things to say, Just remember he has all the right things to say to other women as well. You should want a man who is strong and takes what he wants, Just remember what he wants may not always be with you...

See if a man tells you he has never thought if another woman he is telling you a lie, The difference between a good man and a bad one is that a good man does not act on his desires, but that strong, confident, take charge man, well he doesn't really think he can't lose you, or he believes you will forgive him if he gets caught because he is smooth enough to have his way.

So what makes a good man??? A weakness. Think about this when u think you have found Mr. Right. The very thing that attracts many women to a man is the very thing that causes them to part ways... A weakness doesn't mean a man is weak it means that he is human.....And that ladies man is a ladies man for a reason. You wont put up with that treatment you say, Well once you fall in love you areno longer in control. Your heart is a fool and will cause you to do foolish things you never figured you would do for love...

"If u listen to me I can show u something"

-f.starks

#thoughtsofaloveletter #life #love #dreams #nightmares #lessons#learnsomething

TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter

I am a man that has been blessed with a heart that longs for the comfort and compassion of a woman, A man who has gone to extremes to understand the makeup of a woman, What she feels and why... Although I have not always been the best man I have always been a good man, it has always been in me. I am lucky enough to have once found true love therefore I know what it means and what it feels like. Although I no longer have her I now understand what is required to keep her if ever I were to have her again.

Writing down my thoughts and feelings over the years has given me a keen insight on what love is and specifically how it works. It was therapy for a heart that felt closed off, vacant and unused yet overflowing. As I began to post my feelings, thoughts and ideas on love and following Life Coaches such as Rob Hill, Kenny Burns and Trent Shelton for insight I began to get responses from people thanking me for helping them see love in a different way and helping them through a hard time. This made me feel that my words actually made a difference so after getting enough feedback from people I figure I'll extend  my scope to a blog.

I am opening myself to questions and suggestions as well. There is so much hate in the world I feel I can use this as a platform to share and spread the meaning of love, My meaning of love. Yes Real Men Do Love. I'm not soft, I'm not a pushover I am a lover... I'm not a professional my academic standards but my love is the best teacher. Welcome to my world and open your mind to TheThoughtsOfALoveLetter.... #Help #Therapy

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